Interview with Carla Fadelli founder of Homestead for Youth
ME Q8: What is the cause behind so many young people needing a recreational rehab like H4Y? Do you have advice for parents as to how they can prevent their own kids from needing such intervention?
CARLA: Broken families; confusing messages in society. Sometimes we can do all the right things and our kids still stumble. Some traumas and distress kids experience are outside our control as parents. Looking after yourself as a parent, honouring the child's parent, whether together or separate (even if they don't deserve it), time, communication and also being INVOLVED. We bear the consequences of stepping out of our kids' lives. Be present and constant, and also being the head of the house with fair, consistent and age appropriate boundaries. Many teenagers tell us they emotionally don't feel ready for the freedom and independence parents give them. Say no, say sorry and say I love you often.
CARLA: We believe strongly in the need for community to come together to be part of the solution. The community can help H4Y and get involved by volunteering, donating, letting other people know about us and through our 'sponsor a life' program. As we grow we have a greater need for valuable volunteers and finance. We currently need to raise $200,000 to open the doors and with volunteers we need a variety of skills and willingness in areas as broad as graphics and grant writing, to mentors, administration skills and cooking skills; especially if they are cooking gnocchi for the girls after a hard equine session!
ME: Q10: If a genie could grant you three wishes, what would they be?
CARLA: 1. My son has a disability; I wish to see him talk and develop and be fulfilled to discover his own purpose.
2. Multiple H4Y homes scattered around where the need is.
3. No more suicide. On a less serious note I am hanging out to sneak a kitten and a small calf into the backyard when my husband is not looking ;)
Carla and Marty are absolutely inspirational! I have so much admiration for this young family who are taking action! If all parents looked after their children well, we wouldn't have the problems in our society that Carla and Marty have given their lives to fix. Just remember that by looking after your children well, day in and day out, and by being the best parent you can be, that you are actually preventing these issues in your own children and are therefore being part of the solution. So parents, keep up the amazing job you are doing of raising your children well! You are making a difference! If you want to know more about Homestead for Youth please check out Carla's video below which goes for less than two minutes :)